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Sometimes, It’s like this:

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Which can evolve into this:wtwta1

But later becomes this:

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Which reminds you what you really want/need is this:

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 (Where the Wild Things Are, Maurice Sendak -1963)

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Book Review: The Complete Husband (Lou Priolo)

I am a man who strives everyday to hold to the teachings of Jesus.  After my relationship with God, my 2nd priority is my relationship with my wife.

In January we will celebrate our 8th Wedding Anniversary (time really does fly).  Between three children, career changes, health challenges, we have been through some stuff during that time.  I credit our faith in The Lord for bringing us this far.

I have recently finished reading The Complete Husband by Christian Counselor and Author Lou Priolo.  In it Priolo digs deep into the Bible to define the true purpose of marriage and being a husband, from the perspective of the creator of this most basic institution: God’s perspective.  Priolo pours over virtually all of the scriptures in the Bible that call husbands to fulfill the roles given to us by God himself.

It was a challenging read because while reading I was constantly reminded of the areas that I fall short in (more dates and foot rubs!).  But Priolo also does a great job not only convicting us husbands, but inspiring us to be better and use the scriptures as our motivation.  This volume is not for the feint of heart, as you will be tested and made to really evaluate where you are in your marriage in regard to God’s standard.  Not a quick read, The chapters are chock full of verses and well laid out examples.  They are deep, but never too heavy.

Whether your marriage is on the rocks, stale, or humming along nicely, I recommend this book for any husband who want to take their union to the next level.

“Black” People can be Racist

rac·ist
ˈrāsəst/
noun
  1. a person who believes that a particular race is superior to another.
    synonyms: racial bigot, racialist, xenophobe, chauvinist, supremacist

adjective
1.having or showing the belief that a particular race is superior to another.
“we are investigating complaints about racist abuse at the club”
Let me start out by saying that I am a descendant of Alkebu-Lan.  I am proud of my Yoruba-American heritage, and feel secure enough to share these thoughts with you.  Despite what i’ve just said, there may be some folks who still believe my message is biased.
I want to refute the adage that “Black” People (I don’t use this term too often, but for the sake of argument I will) cannot be racist.  I’ve heard this for years and never really paid much attention to it.  But while watching Black-ish yesterday evening, lead character Dre and his mom (played by the delightful Jenifer Lewis) argued with Rainbow that they were allowed some freedoms when it came to making judgments based upon race & ethnicity because as they put it, “Black People can’t be Racist”.
This is simply untrue.  But not only is it untrue, it it dismissive, devise, and irresponsible in nature.
To be considered a Racist, one only has to believe that one race, or races, is superior or inferior to another.  This means that a White person can be racist towards other White people, the same way a Mexican person can be racist towards Koreans, and vice versa. Anyone can be racist against any race or ethnic group, including their own.
The fact that people of color have been systematically marginalized and disenfranchised in the Americas, and all over the world, doesn’t give us the right to mistreat others.  “Two wrongs, doesn’t make a right”.  Frustration, and a feeling of powerlessness may be the root cause of such behavior.  Because most people of color most often do not find themselves in an advantageous position in relation to the dominant race of that society (in America it is Caucasians at the moment; in other countries and parts of the world it is obviously a different race) they give themselves a pass to misbehave.
-When a Latino dude come to the park or gym to play basketball, but is constantly passed over for other “better” players, is this not racism?
-In a school project, students flock to the Chinese students because they “want to get a good grade” is this not racism?
-An airplane is delayed, and a few passengers begin to express there displeasure.  One of them happens to be a woman who is a descendant of Alkebu-Lan.  She is looked at as an “Angry Black Woman”, while the others are just “voicing their concern”, is that not racism?
-In the entertainment industry, a white artist is given more kudos for performing in a genre that was pioneered by people of color because they “stepped out of the box and did something different” when countless other artists who are minorities receive little or no praise, is this not racism?
I have experienced racism from other descendants of Alkebu-Lan (although removed by their ancestors being brought to the Western Hemisphere by force) just like I have experienced racism at the hands of people from the Domincan Republic, Korea, Pakistan, as well as from Caucasian Americans.  I have been racist towards other descendants of Alkebu-Lan, as well as every other race and ethnicity.  It’s is no different because the outcome is the same: fracture, division, and anger.
For there to be a legitimate discourse on the topic of racism and race inequality, we all need to be honest about what the issue is and how we have contributed in both good, and bad ways.

LEBRON XI

So I just scooped these LeBron XI’s. Wasn’t really intending to purchase but I came across a pretty good deal (never retail 😉 ). They were apparently worn one time, but there is honestly little evidence of this. The 11th edition to Nike’s LeBron line (the 12th installment dropped a few weeks ago) these are known as the “Miami Nights” edition, from when LeBron still played for the Heat in south Florida. I really appreciate the carbon fiber which is ever so nicely broken up by the splashes of hot pink peaking out from under the uppers. It’s a beautiful day so I thought, “Why not a photo shoot?” Enjoy.

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